Time Flies

My goal is to write two posts per month on this blog (not including the 5 on 5^th photo posts).  Obviously I’m failing.  Time sure does fly by.  

As mentioned in my last update, I started attending some of the work LGBT group functions.  This has been a great way to network with other gay men.  For some reason, I never had any gay male friends in my life before coming out.  I don’t think I was avoiding gay men – which you might suspect of a gay man pretending to be straight.  But oddly, I almost never came across men who I knew were gay.  Up until recently (about  18 months now), I only knew one openly gay man.  And we were just acquaintances.  

So the work LGBT group has been great.  I’ve gone to three of the potluck/game days, and one luncheon.  I have to say that they’re a great group of guys (the functions I’ve been going to are mostly gay male centric).  Within the group I’ve made a few good friends who I communicate with regularly.

As far as my personal life goes – I’m still seeing Mitch (who I talked about briefly in my last update).  We’re not a couple – just two guys who go out from time to time.  I don’t think there’s much potential for us to be a couple since he’s extremely closeted.  And I’m not really that into him.  He’s nice and I have a good time with him, but there no real chemistry there.  No spark.  At least on my side.  He may feel differently.  I suspected that he did, and he did say some things last night that made me think he’s interested in more than just a FWB arrangement.  He asked me if he was special among all my male friends.  I wasn’t sure how to answer that – but we do have a decent friendship, so in a sense, yes.  But I don’t think that’s what he meant.  

By the way – I don’t  have that many male friends.  I see Mitch.  There was another guy who I’ve met a few times (let’s call him Rick), but we haven’t been able to make our schedules match up.  Or at least it wasn’t a big enough priority to warrant either of us to shift things.  So I think that’s pretty much over.

There is another person who I see from time to time.  We’re much closer friendship wise than Mitch or Rick.  Plus we’ve been seeing each other for a much longer time.  Long story – not going to go into it here.  I guess there are some things I don’t talk about on this blog.

That’s it.  So basically two guys who I go out with occasionally. 

This is my last week in my current job.  Next week I start in a new position (at the same company).  I’m looking forward to this.  It will be good to have a change.  I’ve been burned out for a while in my current position.  Plus this new job is something totally different from what I’ve done in the past, so new challenges. 

No change with my family life.  I’m still living in the same house with my (eventually ex-) wife and daughter.  On the plus side, I get to see my daughter all the time.  Also, my wife and I are getting along better than ever.  The negatives – I think it scares potential LTR material away.  Who wants to get involved with a guy who still lives with his ex?

As for my other family (parents/siblings) – things are still a bit awkward.  Recently my mom has been dealing with some problems related to my brother and his kids, so I’ve not been the issue of the day for a while now.  But she’s still unable to talk about anything related to me being gay.  Any mention of it and she hangs up.  But I know she’s trying.

In other news – I’ve booked a flight to Alaska this summer (going to see Biki).  I’m really excited about it.  I’ve never been to AK.  Plus it’s always great to see Biki.  If you haven’t been to his blog – check it out.  On the way I’m stopping in Seattle for three days.  I LOVE Seattle.  While there, I’ll be visiting a friend who I met through this blog.  She will remain nameless (but she knows who she is).

A photo I took of Seattle many years ago.  Although it looks like dusk, it was about 11:00pm.  You can almost see Mt. Rainier on the far right side.  This is a scan of the print, so sorry for the damage. 

A few weeks ago I went to see Jay Brannan perform in Phoenix.  He was great, as usual.  If you haven’t checked out his blog, or his website, or his YouTube page, do so now.  I got to meet him again (this time I got my picture taken with him). 

I’m going to see OMD perform in LA.  Can’t wait for that.  It seems that I’ve seem more 80’s bands perform in the last few years than I saw in the 80’s.

Thanks for reading.  I’m sure I won’t post anything else before March’s 5 on 5^th. 

-nl